The other day I browsing through the interwebs and I somehow found myself on an atheist dating website. Quite surprised atht there is such a thing (and internally very chuffed) I decidedto test it on a whim. Result: NO MATCHES FOUND. Really? You mean to tell me that there are NO single non-smoking atheists between 30 and 40, with no kids in Johannesburg? Really?
Time I guess to tattoo Spinster on my forehead and to go home to my cats and empty the liquor cabinet
Then again, it is an international site and the single atheists in South Africa still need to discover it.
This leads to next thought. Unlike religious groups we donāt really have āgatheringsā do we? So beside on forums, how do like minded atheists meet?
Thereās Skeptics in the Pub on this forum if youāre interested.
You can always use the normal online dating sites and specify that youāre non religious and is non-negotiable on being matched with a likeminded male in jhb. I had several dates that way back in my single days.
I actuallly did try the regular dating sites, with disastrous results. I seem to attract all the dodgy types who somehow ignore the non-negotiables. But not overly concerned about being single actually Friends are much more important and stick around. Just curious about dating site demographics in this country.
Iām bound to be blindsided by an anecdote proving me wrong, but hey I make a hobby of putting my foot in it anywayā¦
I think going anywhere specifically looking for a good partner is bound to end badly.
To me meeting āPerson Rightā is usually accomplished through absolute fluke. You just canāt plan that shit. I idly walked into a AD&D session one sunday and by absolute coincidence met Mrs Boogie. I wasnāt so keen on the AD&D, I was just visiting, but thatās how a legend got started:
āHey you think YOU are a geek, Boogie met his girl AT D&D!!!ā
Somehow the general populace think that clubs and bars are places to meet people? Have you SEEN the people who hit on women in clubs?! They scream desperation and creepy-ness. I feel the need to use hand-sanitizer in their general vicinity. And Iām just a guy observing the other male-types in the club. I can image how women must feel with these creeps around obviously ogling them. Ew.
Similarly, I donāt think youāll often find worthwhile people on a dating site. IMHO, YMMV.
I too had bad experiences on dating sites. Met some real doozies, then ended up being seduced by the bokkie who moved in down the street. Weāve been together for nearly 13 years nowā¦very happy.
Hahaha! My dearest darling friend met his now wife at a D&D/gaming stand during O-Week at UCT. He claims the cleavage attracted him And this now made me realise how much I miss D&Dā¦
I totally agree, clubs are heinous. Meat markets as far as Iām concerned. Unts unts all the way. The only decent clubs in Jozi closed down or got taken over by emos (or maybe Iām getting old and cranky).
I did meet a few interseting people over a period of 6 months on a dating site, but just as mates.
I just want to meet interested like-minded people. Thatās why Iām here ;D
I only met my S/O because I crashed my bike. Nothing more intimate than riding pillion with a strange guy whose name you dont even know (but hey, I got home). The V-Twin did enhance the attraction though.
D&D = Dungeons & Dragons, an activity that tends to piss off religious fundies rather strongly, especially Christian ones, and so is a very fine way for irreligious sceptics to spend their free time.
Ah, I see. I have heard of it (Iām not THAT out of touch with pop culture) but have never played it, nor have I more than a most rudimentary idea of how it works. Thus, bachelor or not, Iād rather not flirt with Gerlinde, but perhaps weāll finally meet thirty years from now at a Bingo game.
Friends are much more important and stick around. Just curious about dating site demographics in this country.
